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Can I book a trip for an unmarried couple?

A Xt3 Member asked at 10:46pm on March 7th 2018
Hello Father,

I work as an independent travel agent, and my distant cousin recently reached out to me asking for me to help her book a trip to take with her boyfriend. They want to stay in the same hotel room. I do not know for sure if she is living with her boyfriend, or whether or not they are waiting until marriage for sex, so I don't want to judge, but I am assuming that, due to the fact that they want to stay in the same room, they are in the least, not being completely chaste. But again, I do not know for sure. Would it be a sin for me to plan this trip for them?

Thank you for all your help!


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Hi Nicole, a long time ago, St Augustine argued against adultery being included in the civil law of a country, since he felt that such sins were best dealt with for Christians in the Sacrament of Reconciliation. I'm not saying your question is the same, but I think there's a basic common sense here: that it's not up to a travel agent to get involved in the moral lives of their customers (always excluding situations which are against the laws of most countries, like drug dealing or child abuse).

And many countries have laws against discrimination, so there's a possibility a travel agent would be open to civil action for denying their services. (I'd rather not try to deal here with the much more obviously difficult matter of providing services for gay couples, where sometimes Christian bakers and other service providers are deliberately targetted in order to provoke legal cases.) So I would advise you to go ahead and make the booking for the couple. It would be different if you had a good relation with your distant cousin, which would allow a non-judgmental conversation which might lead to a conversion -but that type of dialogue can't be started outside a pre-existing mutual respect for one another. Very best, Fr Brendan
Xt3's Ask a Priest answered at 4:52am on March 20th 2018 reply

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